“If you are busy pleasing everyone, you are not being true to yourself”
people pleasing detox
November 4th, 2019
There’s a strong opinion underneath your benign smile. It just doesn’t always align with what others think. And . . . you’d hate to be a bother
so YOU HOLD BACK WHAT YOU REALLY THINK
Q: Hey, can you come to the bbq on Saturday?
A: Sure. See you there.
C: I love to roller-skate around naked in the dark.
A: Same. Me too.
Q: I need that project done by tomorrow at 7am
A: Yep. no problem.
Why would you answer like that? Where did that come from?
You don’t even like the people that are going to the bbq, but you said yes anyways. You have two other projects due this week however you said, no problem, knowing it will be added stress to your schedule. And for the love of God, no, you don't like to roller-skate naked in the dark.
So why do you find yourself saying YES to all the time?
Well my sister friend, You often care too much about what people think of your decisions.
Possibly afraid of a negative response if you say no or contradicts, agreeing to everything in order to avoid rocking the boat at all cost.
Can you relate to this? If you suspect you are a people pleaser, You are in the right place. People pleasing can be a serious problem and a hard habit to break.
But the great news is… There’s hope when you choose to do the work - and the first step is signing up for this course.
During the next four weeks,
You will Start getting out of the people-pleasing habit by saying NO to something small.
Express your opinion about something simple.
And take a stand for something you believe in.
Each step you take will help you gain more confidence in your ability to be yourself.
THIS IS WHAT’S INCLUDED:
AWARENESS TIME - where does the deep need to please others comes from. Ask yourself: “Why am I doing this? “What am I responsible for?” Together, we’ll get clear on those answers why trying to please everyone is like chasing a freaking rainbow. IT’S IMPOSSIBLE, so you will never succeed.
REGAIN your sense of self by learning to LISTEN and TRUST your own inner voice. YOU alone have the greatest power to change your life, speak up, share your truth, be your own advocate.
ROCK the boat, gently. Learning there’s power in the single word of NO leaving you feeling empowered and free to say YES to yourself. Success depends on getting good at saying no without feeling guilty. You cannot get ahead with your own goals if you are always saying yes to someone else’s projects and agendas. “It’s not against you, it’s for me…”
You’ll be GUIDED to know the difference between Co-Dependant and Inter-dependant with a deep comprehension what is healthy and what is not. In codependent relationships, the partners have difficulty being themselves while being in the relationship. The challenge is to be interdependent, recognizing that you need your partner and your partner needs you... but both of you also need to be individuals. (IT’S a doozy & SO IMPORTANT to understand this aspect of People pleasing)
HERE’S WHAT BEGINS TO HAPPEN WHEN YOU MAKE THE EFFORT TO QUIT PEOPLE PLEASING….
You get comfortable with “ME” parties. Saying NO to the midnight desperate phone call is a thing of the past
You learn what healthy boundaries are and people begin to respect you for those
and If they don’t you’re ok … “BYE FELICIA”
You become OK with other people figuring out their own problems.
You actually look for the opportunity to get in a little bit of trouble because it’s No longer about you, —— you’re ready for it now
YOU FIND YOUR VOICE (woop woop)
Your circle tightens UP. - you don’t need to serve a plethora of acquaintances when you have a few solid besties who understand the concept of a two-way street. BEST FEELING EVER
Decisions will be made & your life will be YOURS. Dreams will be followed. Calling your own shots can be scary & unknown… but it leads to a kick-ass, confidence filled ride.
As a member of this program you will receive:
4 weekly LIVE group coaching sessions via zoom (they will be available for watching later)
4 detailed training modules jam-packed with the knowledge you need to thrive, and strategy notes galore!
A private facebook group where you can network, and learn with other amazing women all becoming recovering People Pleasers in business and life.
FOREVER access to the group, where all the group coaching sessions will be uploaded!
Direct access to me during the duration of the course in the Facebook group
If you are one of the first (5) ladies to sign up you will also receive:
A 1-hour private PHONE CALL coaching session with me the week following the program ending
If you’re done MOONLIGHTING AS An AMATEUR THERAPIST staying up way past your bedtime when your neurotic friend calls you with a non-issue she should unload onto a paid professional ——> this course is for you!